Instagram photo by gracegulley During my 100 Day Chats the topic of self-care has come up a lot. What exactly is self-care? Is it manicures and spa dates? Is it facials and cocktails with girlfriends? Is it going to the gym? Is it totally frivolous and selfish?? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. No! And more.
Sure there are plenty of self-care activities that are those shiny, happy, feel-good and dazzling moments. And it isn’t selfish. You are taking time to replenish yourself so you can give in a truer and more loving way.
But I do want to add something, self-care may not always feel good in the moment. Some of the growing we have to do may hurt. Letting go of what isn’t for you (relationships, habits, thoughts), is a form of self-care. But you better believe that you will feel pain-let’s just call that growing pains! We all struggle with waves of self-doubt and questioning if we are enough. Cry it out! Grow from it. But don’t ever be ashamed.
Part of self-care is taking time for yourself, FEELING your feelings, and learning to heal and grow. Just like with your muscles, we are made stronger when we are broken down, torn apart and then allowed to recover. And for the love of god, don’t rush yourself! Just like a wizard, you always arrive precisely when you are meant to.
I’ve been in a very serious growing phase. And damnit, it’s hard! But no big deal, because I’m just going to come out stronger. And I know this is part of my self-care. Sending big hugs to all of you who are going through this shit and learning to love all parts of yourself-even the messy, mascara smeared, less-than-perfect, growing-pains parts. xoxo